Grief and Loss: Understanding Your Experience
Grief can bring waves of sadness, anger, numbness, guilt, relief, or even moments of joy that feel confusing. There is no "right" way to grieve, and no two experiences of loss are the same.
At IASH, our counsellors offer a gentle, unhurried space to be with your loss.
(In person at our Bishan centre, or online)
Grief can show up in many different ways. For some people, it feels like waves of sadness that come and go. For others, it’s more like numbness, exhaustion, irritability, or moving through the day on autopilot. It might affect your sleep, your concentration, or the way your body feels, even if you can’t always explain it.
Grief may also feel unpredictable. You might be able to get through parts of the day “normally,” then find yourself overwhelmed by something small and unexpected. Sometimes memories or reminders bring a sudden shift in emotion, and other times things feel strangely quiet or disconnected.
Whatever your experience looks like, there is no right or wrong way to grieve. You’re not behind, and you’re not doing it wrong. Grief is a response to loss, and it deserves patience, space, and care as you move through it in your own time.
Grief shows up differently for everyone
You may be experiencing some of these, if not all:
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Waves of sadness that arrive without warning, sometimes long after the loss
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Numbness, or feeling strangely "fine" — which can be its own kind of grieving
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Anger, guilt, regret, or replaying what you could have done differently
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Exhaustion, trouble sleeping, or finding ordinary tasks overwhelming
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Feeling isolated, as though others have moved on while you haven't
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Moments of relief or even laughter — and guilt for feeling them
There are no neat stages to move through in order, and no deadline to be "over it". Whatever you're feeling is part of grief, not a sign you're doing it wrong.
Grief & Loss Counselling at IASH
At IASH, we believe grief deserves gentleness, dignity, and human connection.
Our approach may include:
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Counselling and psychotherapy
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Nervous-system-informed approaches
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Emotional regulation support
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Trauma-informed support
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Emotional processing
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Values-based approaches
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Self-compassion work
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Peer support
to create room for grief without rushing people toward “moving on.”
We aim to create support that feels:
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Reflective
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Emotionally safe
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Human
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Non-judgemental
Healing does not always mean forgetting or no longer feeling pain.
Sometimes healing means slowly learning how to carry the loss differently.
Support Options at IASH.SG
We want cost to be the smallest possible barrier
Financial Assistance Subsidy
(30% off)
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Blue CHAS Card holders
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Charity referrals
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Clients via our Social Enterprise EAP partners
"Dear Students" Subsidy
(30% off)
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Students up-to undergraduate paying for counselling on their own
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"Heart work" Subsidy
(20% off)
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Teachers
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Frontline healthcare professionals
Thank you for your service!
Partner EAP Organizations
(10% off)
Please contact us if you wish to partner with us!